Do not unroll gates in basis in add_control (backport #13475)

[mergify]

Summary

The add_control mechanism currently does some redundant unrolling and re-wrapping of gates that are already in the basis of gates we know how to control. This has knock-on effects and causes #13473, by translating an RZ operation (already supported) to a Phase gate.

This PR avoids this unrolling. As discussed with @alexanderivrii, in the longer term we should consider rewriting this logic entirely and have a controlled gate plugin, which also allows users to supply their own control mechanism.

Details and comments

• There's a failing test (likely since the decomposition now uses the RX-path instead of wrongly the RX->R->U3->U path before), but the unitary is still correct and there are only dangling U(0,0,0) gates.
• Need to add a test for The multi-controlled gate by RZGate().control() is less optimized. #13473

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #13475 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com).

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As discussed offline, no backports to 1.4 are necessary if they are already in stable/1.3.